As a parent, we face times of intensified stress when we struggle to juggle competing demands. Sometimes, we feel so overwhelmed with stress that we shift into survival mode where we react in “Fight, flight or freeze.” Once we are in a state of overwhelm and feel emotionally flooded, it takes a minimum of 20 minutes to shift back into a more responsive state. It is helpful to have a handy list of activities that you know help you soothe your distress. Engaging in an activity that shifts the energy can be helpful for many people. Some examples of helpful activities include going for a walk, getting some exercise or taking a bath. I have recorded a Soothing Script that is 20 minutes long as another tool to help you shift from reactivity into responsiveness. This script is recorded from the book, And Baby Makes Three by John M. Gottman and Julie S. Gottman (p. 88-91).
Seattle Marriage and Family Therapist
I am a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Upper Queen Anne Seattle. I love supporting women move through the various stages of their life journey. I am particularly passionate about helping women transition into and through their experience of motherhood. My husband and I support couples who are looking for ways to reconnect with each other and strengthen their relationship.