According to Jon Kabat-Zinn, “Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way, on purpose, in the present moment, non-judgmentally.”
Developing a practice of mindfulness can be helpful in decreasing stress and increasing your ability to stay more responsive rather than reactive. This Basic Breath Meditation is offered to help you start developing a practice of reconnecting with your body and breath. It is less than 8 minutes long.
Basic Breath Meditation
I was so inspired after watching an interview with Oprah at the Stanford Graduate School of Business. You can watch it on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6DlrqeWrczs). I loved her message that we all have a purpose here on earth and that our lives will naturally pull us towards our calling. I’ve created this image with a quote from Wayne Dyer that reminds me that we all have a unique song to sing in this world…and that I want to sing out loud in the time that I have left to make a difference…
“What lingers from the parent’s individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.” – Virginia Satir
A lot of new research has illuminated how the brain works and how the brain develops in childhood. The first few years of life are critical in the development of a healthy secure attachment and strong self esteem. According to Dr. Dan Siegel, parents who have made sense of their lives, as revealed in their coherent life narratives, will be those that somehow offer their children patterns of communication that promote well-being. In the alternative, parents who have fragmented or incoherent life narratives will be challenged to offer their children such patterns of communication that promote well being. As such, the motivation for parents to integrate their own neural networks is significant.
One of the most important tasks we have as parents is to help our child create a coherent narrative. In order to play this role in co-creating their sense of self, we must be receptive to our child’s mind and communicative signals. When we have suffered from trauma, abuse and/or neglect, our ability to attune is negatively impacted by our wounds. The early days of becoming a mother can also be so turbulent and traumatic that it can make it even more difficult to be capable of healthy attunement with our children. Lack of sleep, extreme hormone shifts, hyper-sensitive sensory awareness often intensify reactivity and exhaustion.
Finding ways to heal from trauma, abuse and /or neglect prior to planning your parenthood can help provide a healthy foundation for the new addition in your life. However, if you have missed that window, it is better late than never. Children are much more pliable than adults. The act of relating to your child in healthier patterns at any point can offer healing and increase the likelihood of developing strong self esteem and a coherent life narrative for your child.
It’s amazing how quickly our little ones grow. In a flash, a year has passed and it’s time to celebrate their birthdays again. There are pros and cons to holding the celebration at home. Although the costs can be kept down, the blood, sweat and tears involved to put on the event can be very stressful.
Here are a few popular birthday venues in the Seattle area that make it possible for you to let your hair down a bit.
Seattle Gymnastics Academy
Seattle Children’s Museum
The Woodland Zoo
The Roaring Mouse Creative Arts Studio
Greenlake Community Center
Mountlake Terrace Pool
LOCATIONS NEAR SEATTLE:
Play Happy Café – Lynnwood
Xtreme Bounce of Fun – Auburn